Author Archives: Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

About Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

BA, DTM, CCFE, Certified child development specialist and master of non-punitive parenting and education practices. Keynote speaker and best-selling author of "Discipline Without Distress", "Parenting With Patience", "Attachment Parenting Tips Raising Toddlers to Teens", and "Unschooling To University."

How To Make a Child Learn Independently?

Independence in Education. I had a Quora question that might be beneficial to post here with so many parents struggling to keep their kids engaged in online work. How can one make their child more independent in their studies? In … Continue reading

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How To Actively Listen To Feelings

Feelings matter. When your child is grumbling about something – anything, the best response is to validate their feelings. When someone feels heard, they are more likely to listen to you. Remember that while there are limits on expressing feelings … Continue reading

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The “YES” List

Too often, we tell our children what they can’t do when they are mad!  No hitting, no pushing your brother, and no swearing!  However, children think in the “can do” creative stage, not the “can’t do” of more non-tangible abstract … Continue reading

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Money Smart Kids

When and How to Teach Finances A common question I get from parents  is when and how should kids start learning about money. Here is an age-by-age primer of what your child needs to know at each age group, from … Continue reading

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Tips For Applying To College and Universities

Applications Apply early.  For many arts programs, you can apply beginning at Dec 1 of your grade 12 year.  However, admission is still contingent on final June marks so don’t slack off! Upgrade at the high school level rather than … Continue reading

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Problem-Solving: When Time-outs, Grounding and Consequences Don’t Work

When you look at your child now and imagine the teenage years ahead, does the image fill your heart with dread or joy and anticipation?  Do you see your relationship as a warm, loving, close one that has open communication, … Continue reading

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Calm-Down Tools: 70 Ways to Calm Down and Reclaim Patience in the Heat of Anger

Children need an adult’s help to calm down just as they need an adult’s help to learn Math. We don’t give a child a math book and send them to their room and tell them to come out when they … Continue reading

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How To Get More Patience

Like a good marriage, it really helps to ignore a lot of daily irritations. Anger is like a fish-hook. We can choose to bite or swim on by. Sometimes, we just keep on swimming! Sometimes, we have to ignore the … Continue reading

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Non-Punitive Screen-Time Family Contract

https://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/an-age-by-age-guide-to-kids-and-smartphones/ Also featured in Today’s Parent Magazine Family Screen Time Contract  A Contract for Digital Health and Safety between Parent_____ and Child(ren)_____ Date:_________________ CHILD I agree to always ask you for help, explanation, advice and information regarding anything I can’t … Continue reading

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The Playgroup Altercation: Your child is the victim

  The Playgroup Altercation   Part Two – Your child is the Victim You hear a loud thud, an ear-piercing scream, and then your child appears before you wearing a tear-stained cheek and red eyes and is pointing to another … Continue reading

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