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Problem-Solving: When Time-outs, Grounding and Consequences Don’t Work

When you look at your child now and imagine the teenage years ahead, does the image fill your heart with dread or joy and anticipation?  Do you see your relationship as a warm, loving, close one that has open communication, … Continue reading

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When Do Children Understand “Consequences?”

Why is it so difficult to teach children that actions have consequences?  The question might be, “Why do children not choose the best course of action?” It is difficult because of caregiver/parent’s unrealistic expectations of children’s brain development. Honestly, I … Continue reading

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Are Consequences Punitive?

In groups, I get asked all the time if consequences are punitive.  It depends.  Consequences are natural outcomes that occur if a parent intervenes or not.  Yes, consequences happen to kids all the time when they are out and about … Continue reading

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Consequences or Problem-Solving?

In parenting classes, I often get asked the following question: When I give my 11 year-old daughter a consequence, she insists that I am being mean to her. I believe that it is respectful discipline. What is the difference between … Continue reading

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Are consequences a discipline tool or a form of punishment?

CONSEQUENCES AS A DISCIPLINE TOOL By Judy Arnall Consequences are the natural outcome from our behaviours.  Every action that we humans do has a consequence. For our children, consequences are a powerful learning tool that tells them if their decision … Continue reading

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