Tag Archives: Discipline

Problem-Solving: When Time-outs, Grounding and Consequences Don’t Work

Posted on January 28, 2021 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

When you look at your child now and imagine the teenage years ahead, does the image fill your heart with dread or joy and anticipation?  Do you see your relationship as a warm, loving, close one that has open communication, … Continue reading →

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Why Do Toddlers Hit? Is it Genes or Environment?

Posted on February 24, 2020 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

Why do Toddlers Hit? Is it genes or environment? Actually, it is 95% genes! It’s natural for toddlers to hit, but where does this aggression come from? We evolved from humans who could fight and defend their lives, territory and … Continue reading →

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Childhood Assault Must Be Made Illegal

Posted on July 4, 2019 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

It is an election year, and Prime Minister Trudeau promised to implement the Truth and Reconciliation Commission Report recommendations.  One of those recommendation’s is to remove the legality of children being assaulted.  Ask the MP candidates what they are doing … Continue reading →

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When Do Children Understand “Consequences?”

Posted on February 18, 2019 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

Why is it so difficult to teach children that actions have consequences?  The question might be, “Why do children not choose the best course of action?” It is difficult because of caregiver/parent’s unrealistic expectations of children’s brain development. Honestly, I … Continue reading →

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Consequences or Problem-Solving?

Posted on January 20, 2018 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

In parenting classes, I often get asked the following question: When I give my 11 year-old daughter a consequence, she insists that I am being mean to her. I believe that it is respectful discipline. What is the difference between … Continue reading →

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Is It A Discipline Issue or Development Issue? Part 2 Problem-solving with Young Children

Posted on November 15, 2015 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

Part 2 – Problem-solving with young children In the last issue, we talked about toddler behaviour and the importance of child-proofing and distraction. For older children’s behaviour, problem-solving is now the first go-to discipline tool. But don’t forget, problem-solving still … Continue reading →

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Is It a Discipline Issue or a Development Issue? Part 1 Young Children

Posted on November 6, 2015 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

Is It a Discipline Issue or a Development Issue? Part 1 Young Children Effective discipline of young children requires knowledge about the development of children. Normal toddler behaviour is often viewed as “misbehaviour” by parents who do not understand the … Continue reading →

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Are consequences a discipline tool or a form of punishment?

Posted on November 30, 2012 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

CONSEQUENCES AS A DISCIPLINE TOOL By Judy Arnall Consequences are the natural outcome from our behaviours.  Every action that we humans do has a consequence. For our children, consequences are a powerful learning tool that tells them if their decision … Continue reading →

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The Myth of Parenting Consistency: It’s Okay to be human

Posted on October 31, 2012 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

By Judy Arnall When I became a parent, I read more than 494 parenting books. I discovered that most books promote the concept of parental consistency. Rules must be set, and strictly enforced. Children want limits and parents must provide … Continue reading →

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Faceoook Parenting for the Troubled Dad of Teen

Posted on February 16, 2012 by Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

It would be interesting to see what led up to the daughters frantic posting. I wonder if teens are being more disrespectful these days because most parents punish their kids in disrespectful ways? Which comes first, rebellion and then punishment … Continue reading →

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