The “YES” List

Express Anger Safely

Too often, we tell our children what they can’t do when they are mad!  No hitting, no pushing your brother, and no swearing!  However, children think in the “can do” creative stage, not the “can’t do” of more non-tangible abstract thinking stage. We need to brainstorm with our families and put together a list of things we can do in the moment.

We call this “The Yes List.” Anything that relieves anger and keeps us from hurting other people or hurting our things is fine – but each family is different. Your list may differ from another family’s list. It’s okay. Have a list!

For more ideas; here are 70 ways to calm down in the heat of frustration and anger that may work for you and your child. Add them to your “Yes List”!

About Judy Arnall, BA, DTM, CCFE

BA, DTM, CCFE, Certified child development specialist and master of non-punitive parenting and education practices. Keynote speaker and best-selling author of "Discipline Without Distress", "Parenting With Patience", "Attachment Parenting Tips Raising Toddlers to Teens", and "Unschooling To University."
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